May 19th, 2010, 01:44 AM
The sudden death of a loved one may seem senseless. People who have experienced or suffered after this type of event may stop working effectively in school or at their jobs. They may lash out at friends, family, and coworkers. They may experience significant illnesses as stress depresses their immune systems. But writing about your feelings can prove to be healing for you and helpful for others. By channeling your emotions in a constructive way, your voice can become an honest, heartfelt <LEO_HIGHLIGHT style="BORDER-BOTTOM: rgb(255,255,150) 2px solid; DISPLAY: inline; BACKGROUND: 0% 50%; CURSOR: pointer; -moz-background-clip: -moz-initial; -moz-background-origin: -moz-initial; -moz-background-inline-policy: -moz-initial" id=leoHighlights_Underline_0 onmouseover="leoHighlightsHandleMouseOver('leoHighlights_Underl ine_0')" onmouseout="leoHighlightsHandleMouseOut('leoHighlights_Underli ne_0')" onclick="leoHighlightsHandleClick('leoHighlights_Underline_ 0')" leohighlights_underline="true" leohighlights_url_bottom="http%3A//shortcuts.thebrowserhighlighter.com/leonardo/plugin/highlights/3_1/tbh_highlightsBottom.jsp?keywords%3Dtool%26domain% 3Dwww.coffeetimeromance.com" leohighlights_url_top="http%3A//shortcuts.thebrowserhighlighter.com/leonardo/plugin/highlights/3_1/tbh_highlightsTop.jsp?keywords%3Dtool%26domain%3Dw ww.coffeetimeromance.com" leohighlights_keywords="tool">tool</LEO_HIGHLIGHT>. Readers will find themselves relating and comparing their personal predicaments to yours. This proved to be the case for me while writing Flaherty's Crossing. Since its release, I have received numerous letters from women who had strained relationships with their fathers and carried this baggage into their marriages. Critics time and time again commented about the legitimate emotions my characters shared and the inspiration my words lent. But in telling a story, opening a vein to let your pain flow, authors can also add a fictional flare which protects their vulnerability. They can find resolution in their story telling that may never otherwise exist. So as you go through life, don't be afraid to tap into the drama you've experienced. This only makes your stories more believable.
With this in mind, here are a few questions I'd love for you to consider and respond to. Have you personally experienced a traumatic event in your life? Have you found it therapeutic to open up and allow your pent-up emotions to flow onto your pages? Have you discovered that your work touches or benefits others?
May 22nd, 2010, 11:46 AM
Easy Brunch Bake - Yummy! (Note: This can be whipped up the night before and warmed up in the microwave)
What You Need! <!--concordance-begin-->
1-6oz pkg STOVE TOP Stuffing Mix for Chicken
3 cups fat-free milk
1 red pepper, chopped
1-10oz pkg frozen chopped spinach, thawed, squeezed dry 1 cup KRAFT 2% Milk Shredded Sharp Cheddar Cheese 2 whole eggs
2 egg whites
4 slices bacon, cooked, crumbled or skinless chicken strips
HEAT oven to 350ºF.
SPOON into greased 13x9-inch baking dish.
BAKE 40 min. or until center is set and top is golden brown.
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May 26th, 2010, 11:40 AM
<p>Toxic, turbulent emotions have one cause — not knowing how to deal with pain. Pain is normal in life, but suffering isn’t. When we do not know how to deal with pain, we suffer.</p>
<p><strong>1. Identify and locate the emotion physically</strong></p>
<p>Set aside a few minutes when you won’t be disturbed. Sit comfortably and close your eyes. For a few minutes, just meditate in silence. Focus on your breathing — or if you prefer, you may use a antra. </p>
<p>Now with eyes still closed, recall some circumstance in the recent past that was upsetting to you. It may be a time when you felt you were mistreated, an arguments with your partner, or perhaps a past injustice at work. Identify some instance where you felt emotionally upset. </p>
<p>For the next 30 seconds, think in detail about that incident. Try to picture what actually happened as vividly as you can, as if you were reporting it for a newspaper. Here, you are the observer watching this event. You are not the event, argument or emotional upset; you are merely witnessing what is happening from the perspective of your silent self. You are carrying the effect of the meditation you just did, allowing you to maintain a vantage point that is not overshadowed by the quality of the emotions. </p>
<p>Now identify exactly what you are feeling. Put some word on the incident that describes what you are experiencing. Be as precise as you can. Do you feel unappreciated? Insulted? Treated unfairly? Give the feeling a name. Come up with a word that epitomizes the painful experience. Focus your attention on that word.</p>
<p><strong>2. Witness the experience</strong></p>
<p>Gradually allow your attention to move away from the word. Let your attention wander into your body. Become aware of the physical sensations that arise in your body as a result of the emotion you’ve identified. These two elements — an idea in the mind and a physical sensation in the body — are what an emotion truly is, and they can’t really be separated. This is why we call it a feeling — because we feel emotions in our bodies. </p>
<p>Let your attention pass through your body as you’re recalling this experience. Locate the sensations the memory brings up. For many it’s a pressure in the chest or a sensation of tightness in the gut. Some feel it as pressure in their throat. Find where it is in your body that you’re feeling and holding the emotional experience. </p>
<p><strong>3. Express the emotion</strong></p>
<p>Now express that feeling. Place your hand on the part of your body where you sense that the feeling is located. Say it out loud: “It hurts here.” If you’re aware of more than one location for the pain, move your hand from place to place. At every location, pause for a moment and express what you’re feeling. Say, “It hurts here.” When you experience physical discomfort, it means that something is unbalanced in your experience — physically, mentally or spiritually. Your body knows it — every cell in your body knows it. Befriend these sensations and their wisdom, because the pain is actually leading you to wholeness. </p>
<p>Writing your feelings out on paper is also a valuable way to express the emotion. This is especially effective when you can write out your painful experience in the first person, in the second person and finally from the perspective of a third person account. </p>
<p><strong>4. Take responsibility </strong></p>
<p>Be aware that any painful feelings you experience are<em> your</em> feelings. These feelings are happening inside your body now as you remember the pain, even though nothing is actually taking place in the material world. You’re only remembering what happened, yet your body is reacting with muscle contractions, hormonal secretions and other responses within you. Even when the painful incident was occurring in the material world, the effect was entirely within you. You have choice in how you interpret and respond to emotional turbulence. Recognizing this is taking responsibility for your feelings. </p>
<p>This doesn’t mean you feel guilty. Instead, it means you recognize your ability to respond to painful situations in new and creative ways. By taking responsibility for your feelings, you can also gain the power to make the pain melt away. You’re no longer blaming anyone else for having caused the pain, so you no longer have to depend on anyone else to make it go away. Hold that understanding in your consciousness for the next few moments. </p>
<p><strong>5. Release the emotion</strong></p>
<p>Place your attention on the part of your body where you’re holding the pain, and with every exhalation of your breath, have an intention of releasing that tension. For the next 30 seconds, just feel the painful sensation leaving your body with every breath. Some people find that making an audible tone that resonates in that part of your body where the pain is localized helps to loosen and lift the contraction away. You can also experiment to discover what works best for you. For some people, singing or dancing does the trick. You may try deep breathing, using essential oils, or taking a long warm bath. Finally, if you have written out your emotions on paper, it can be helpful to ritually burn the paper and offer the ashes to the winds. </p>
<p><strong>6. Share the outcome </strong></p>
<p>Sharing the outcome of releasing your pain is important because it activates the new pattern of behavior after the old painful pattern is released. Imagine that you could speak to the person who was involved in that original painful incident. What would you say to that person now? Bear in mind that he/she was not the real cause of your pain. The real cause was your response. In your transformed state, you are now free. So you can share what happened without blame, manipulation or seeking approval. Perhaps they intended to cause you pain, and you may have unwittingly collaborated in that intention. Maybe you would like to say you no longer intend to fall into such traps. </p>
<p>Whatever you say is totally up to you. As long as you have an awareness of the steps we’ve taken so far in this exercise, whatever you say will be right for you. </p>
<p><strong>7. Celebrate the process</strong></p>
<p>Now you can celebrate the painful experience that had taken place as the valuable material that helped you move to a higher level of consciousness. What was previously a disconnected, destructive and disabled part of your psyche is now integrated and contributing its power toward your greater spiritual goal. Instead of responding to the situation with a pain reflex, perpetuating the problem, you’ve turned it into an opportunity for spiritual transformation. That is something to celebrate! Go out for a nice dinner or buy yourself some flowers or a present to honor the new you. </p>
<p>Use this exercise whenever you feel upset, to free yourself from emotional turbulence and the underlying pain. When you do that, you’ll find that opportunities will arise more often in every area of your life.
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