A Day in the Life...
So here's my thought, I'll start this running thread and try to post several times a week about the fascinating, scintillating, glamorous life of an author...namely me.
And if you're still with me and not rolling on the floor laughing like my kids were, we're all good! http://www.cobblestone-mainstreet.co...ilies/rotf.gif:roflmao:
So what was the glamorous author (me http://www.cobblestone-mainstreet.co.../icon_wink.gif) doing today? Well, besides seetting up my new forum room here, Dale's been home since Friday, and it had been about three weeks since I'd seen him. Dale's my fiance for anyone who doesn't know, and he drives a cargo van for a living, so he's on the road about 3 weeks out of the month. :p But we carry on. lol
So we went to see Hitch Friday night in our local park. You know, picnics, movies under the stars, that kind of thing. It was wonderful! Then we spent much of Saturday watching Policeman vs Fireman on meta cafe...if you have no idea what I'm talking about, check out my blog today, there's a youtube box and a link to the site. It's too funny!
I just love being with Dale so much, he makes me laugh like crazy. We don't even have to be doing anything, I just like being in the same space with him. Of course, best of all is I don't think I've ever felt so loved in all my life. It confounds me to be honest. I don't speak with most members of my family and outside of Kevin and Mark (my two best friends) I don't really have a ton of friends, I'm a bit of a recluse. http://www.liquidsilverbooks.com/for...es/redface.gif
So this leads up to last week's struggles. I was struggling with everything! Writing stuff, life stuff, kid stuff, house stuff. blech blech blech http://www.liquidsilverbooks.com/for...ies/tongue.gif So yeah, it was a week! To be fair, I do tend to over think everything, but I find that things sort of all come to a head all at the same time and it gets overwhelming, to say the least. As the new week has dawned, however, peace has resumed.
I struggle with guilt for ending my marriage, and compound that with the need to make my new life amazing so I can somehow justify my leaving, and it makes a VERY stressed Samantha. http://www.liquidsilverbooks.com/for...ies/tongue.gif My friend Kevin told me last week that if I spent half the time I spend chasing my tail with "what ifs", writing instead, I'd have a fifty books out.
He had a point.
And it's not that I didn't already know that, but for some reason when he said it, it hit home and made me start thinking in a different direction. Then Dale comes home and I told him how I'm constantly fretting that he'll realize I'm sooooo not worth the effort and dump me. So anyway, serious conversation ensued and it went very well.
Hell, we even did a budget, and there wasn't one tense moment!!! No arguing, no hurt feelings, no anger, nothing! We were on the exact same page!!!
I've never had that experience in my life!
He did have one teeny issue that he wanted me to work on... I have a real need to constantly see it as my money and his money (primarily because he has soooooo much more of it than I do!) and he wants me to stop that. It's our money apparently. http://www.liquidsilverbooks.com/for...milies/eek.gif He trusts me and really truly loves me!! It's amazing.
I think it'll be a while before I've assimilated all that went on this weekend, but lets just say, I think I'm going into life with the intention of relaxing and enjoying it. How successful I'll be, who knows, but I'm going to try.
I did lose another 2.4 pounds last week, my second week officially on Weight Watchers. For more info on that you can check out my personal blog, I usually blog on Saturdays about weight coz that's the day I weigh in Blech :P But anyway, I'm psyched over that! Although with Dale home, we've eaten out and had drinks :eat: and I've over indulged at least once, but I'm not worried about it. I won't see him again for another month and I was somewhat careful with my choices. So if I've gained this week, I'm not giving up and I'm not hating myself for it. It's just back on track the second Dale walks out the door. http://www.liquidsilverbooks.com/for...es/biggrin.gif
In writing news, I'm VERY excited about a new series of books I'm working on now...and when I say series, well, I'm still in the initial stages of plotting, but the idea is to release a new book (about 50k) in this series every other month for at least two years!
What I'm hoping is to have people anxiously waiting for the next book in the series every month! I can not even begin to tell you how excited I am about this. It'll be something unlike anything else out there, so it's a gamble, but my heart is so deeply invested, I'm hoping it pays off!
Anyway, I guess that's it for now. Have a great rest of the week all...and RELAX!!! http://www.liquidsilverbooks.com/for...lies/smile.gif
Okay, you sounds about like me, but I have different problems. I'm still always "what ifing" things even though it's not always worth it. LOL!
I still IF and BUT usually about the kids or money - not as much now - stopping smoking helped with the money cos we didn't let what we where saving slip into the household buget we try and save (at least some ) of it for other stuff. as for the kids i've found if i chase my tail about them to much i mix them up and they usually sort thing out for themselfs - see there is a plus to having 4 kids.
Hope all goes well with your series a book every other month sounds like alot of work
Welcome to the coffee time forums - and congrats on your success! I can so relate to your "what-ifs" - I'm constantly second guessing myself.
OMG Dani, you have no idea! It's gotten quite bad lately, but between Kevin and Mark, I think they've kind of given me the shake I needed, so I'm going to try to cut back on the over thinking and try to just relax and enjoy more. All things considered, I'm an extremely lucky woman. ;-)
Hollie, I have 2 kids and Dale has 2 kids, so I suddenly have 4!!! I have soooooo much respect for you! lol My two though are 14 and nearly 18. I think I'm learning with them, I've done good by them and they're smart kids, so I'm definitley not quite as assualted but the waht ifs when it comes to them...not quite. lol
As for the series, I'm sure it will be a lot of work, but when I'm in writing mode, I write like a fiend! I think every other month will be about the perfect rate for me, but who knows, once I get into it, I may have to adjust, but I hope not. :)
Hi Debora and thanks for the welcome! I've just signed on with Blade myself, so that means we're related now. :) And congrats on your book, I saw some fabulous reviews for it! :notworthy:
I have a son with an autistic spectrum disorder, so I seem to "what if" a lot of the time. Then I try to chill out and re-evaluate the situation and decide. It gets bad sometimes, but some how I manage.
thats all we can do Dani I always tey to remember there is always some one worse or look for something i've done that is harder
That's SO true. It's been amazing to me, my ability to keep going even when I think I can't possible take another step. In general I tend to say if I wake up and my kids are healthy, then everything else is managable.
Originally Posted by IrishWolf
Thats my "we've been through worse than this" when my youngest was born he was 9 weeks prem then at 5 weeks old he had to go into intensive care and for a while it was touch and go. As long as we are healthy nothing else matters
Exactly! I've been incredibly blessed with my kids, health wise, but I did have four miscarriages over the span of two and a half years, that was heartbreaking.
Originally Posted by hollie