On a another message board, one of the topics of discussion was alpha heroes and how the dominance that was attractive in a fictional character could be annoying in a real life.

So, the question for discussion now is, what traits do you like to see in a fictional romantic hero that aren't quite so nice in real life? And vice versa. Are there any good traits in real life mate that are unappealing in a fictional character?

For me, I think that sometimes in fiction, the "wounded" hero can be very appealing...the man who's been hurt by someone/something in his past. Then along comes the right woman who heals him. In REAL life, that doesn't work. You can't "fix" people and thinking you can is only asking for trouble.