We all know that certain groups prefer different heat levels for posts. Some groups want nothing above PG13 - others are wide open. For those who write M/M or gay romance, there are sites that won't let you post a single word. That goes the opposite direction as well. Some promo sites for gay fiction/romance won't accept material for a straight romance.
The key is to read the rules and ask the mods if you're unsure. Do this ahead of time to avoid getting there and finding out little or none of the material you've prepared can be posted. TIP: If you request info several days ahead from the moderator or owner and don't get a reply, run in the other direction. Yes, people get busy and sometimes don't respond right away, but for an author day or chat there should be someone in charge.
How do you find out who runs the group? Look at the bottom of the Yahoo Group page. There you'll see:
Group Email Addresses
Related Link: http://www.coffeetimeromance.com
Post message: firstname.lastname@example.org
List owner: email@example.com
The list owner is usually your best bet, unless you personally know there is a separate moderator. The ones above are from Coffee Time Romance's group Karen Find Out About New Books. I always liked that title...
Bottom line, exactly what kinds of things should you post? Here's a short list.
Blurbs/tags for new books
Links to your website
Links to your MySpace
Chit chat! What you've done recently.
The wrong genre or heat rating for the group (a PG13 site shouldn't get X-rated excerpts)
Unless you are a political or religious writer, politics and religion are no-no's.
Highly personal information (intimate info)
Take care not to reveal personal addresses, phone numbers (share these offline only if you trust someone)
Always Always Always use full urls. http://kayelleallen.com vs www.kayelleallen.com or kayelleallen.com - Why? Because readers can click on the full url and go immediately to the site. With the others they have to copy and paste. If you are trying to drive traffic to your site, make it easy for the reader to get there. One click - and boom! You've got visitors.
Anyone have other things they'd like to add?