Thanks for responding ladies.
I have to say that I agree completely with pretty much everyone. I think what makes a man great is very much his personality and the way he treats others.
Of course, I use my ex as a guide for this... He was usually awful to other people, including me. He had his great moments, like everyone, but when it came down to it (looking back, of course) he could be shallow and cruel.
So, I think that taking it a step beyond the looks department is important. Of course, in writing fiction, why can't a man have it all! Looks and personality. That's probably why I write. LOL